Your thoughts become your identity. In other words, you become who you say you are or who you believe you are. Your belief in who you are defines your self-identity.
Whether it is positive or negative self-talk in our heads or if we believe, or come into agreement with what someone else says about us, what we believe becomes seeds.
These seeds planted in our minds over time do what seeds do. When we keep holding onto the belief, it is like giving the thought life and water to grow, good or bad. So the question is, are your seeds growing beauty or weeds?
This is not an exercise in how to beat ourselves up. This is an opportunity to get really curious about your thoughts, your mindset and the identity that you want to create. Who do you want to be? Does your thinking match up?
Becoming self-aware, understanding and acknowledging how we see ourselves is the most important part of choosing who you want to become. You may have to clean out some old thinking that is not only not helping you, but may be hurting you.
Because your mind will believe whatever you tell it. Or what you are willing to come into agreement with. We unknowingly come into agreement with what other people say about us as if their opinion is absolute truth. It’s just their opinion. Their perspective. And that is not fact. It may actually be a lie. A lie that the enemy wants us to think, but is not in line with who God says we are. A lie that we were never meant to believe.
So how do we change the negative self-talk?
Well, what would you like to believe? How would you like to see yourself? How would you describe who you want to be and your self-identity?
What would you need to believe to adopt this new better version of you? Is there evidence in your life that this may already be true? If not, how could it become true? What would you need to do? Who would you need to be?
Having good counsel is a game changer when you are building and creating who you want to be. This is where a coach can help. A coach can show you what you may not see about yourself. A coach helps you become objective to see what is really happening instead of the story that we may be telling ourselves. A coach can be your biggest cheerleader, celebrating your wins big and small and holding your feet to the fire when the change you desire becomes hard and feels impossible.
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